Growing up
July 7, 2006
Disclaimer: This post is written based on my current mood. It is in no way affliated with anyone, anywhere, anyhow. Enjoy!
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Sometimes growing up sucks doesn’t it? Everything changes when you grow up.
People change. No one is exempted from that, whether they realize it or not. When people change, friendship change as well. As I get older I begin to figure out what my values and interests are. It’s really different from what I felt in the earlier years as a teenager.
I am growing up and becoming an individual – my own person, for the lack of other terms.
BUT, I must also bear in mind that my friends are doing the same thing as well; Changing.
The chances of my friends and I changing in the same ways are very slim. I find myself a different person today than compared when I was in high school. I used to hate doing things by myself. Now, I find myself going to lunch, and shop alone. I know it sounds pathetic, like I don’t have ANY friends and stuff but it’s not that bad, I think. HAHAHAHA. I have yet to try travelling by myself and perhaps one day I would have the guts to do it. 😉
I find my life is different from some of my friends and do not share much in common with them. So, it is unavoidable that there are times when they are interested in things that I’m not interested in and there are times when what I want to do don’t interest them as well. I’m sure EVERYONE has gone through that one way or another. For example; I think it’s safe for me to say that I’m like the most MUSHY among my friends. I think it scares them sometimes *snicker*
So, here’s a little thought from me:
While some old friends will go and new friends will come, I think the worst possible thing we can do is to grow apart from OUR own needs. Growing apart from friends – although painful and sad – can often make room for new friends and new experiences I suppose. At times I have struggled to avoid letting myself grow apart from certain friends, but the truth is perhaps we shouldn’t have to struggle so hard. Don’t get me wrong, friendship takes work but if it takes THAT much effort and still doesn’t work, why force it? Because as time passes, we become different people with different interests. Not better or worse people, just different. The people we become don’t always mesh with our old friends, and there is nothing worse than forcing a friendship that no longer works.
Perhaps in a time of someone’s life, priorities change and are different for every individual. I guess that’s how life is. So with that said, there comes a time to move on but don’t burn the bridges to the past either.
I will keep living my life the best way I can and continue to be my sarcastic mushy self.
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