Archive for June, 2008

LDR – What’s so wrong about it?

June 30, 2008

I had dinner with a couple (out of town) cousins and uncle and “aunt” last night. They came over to the house after dinner for a little while. Somehow the topic of conversation with the cousins (they’re sisters) came to my visit to the States next month. I was never close with them (Let’s call them A and B) nor do I care much for them (to be brutally honest).

Anyway, when asked about where I would be staying, I told them Chicago. Of course they asked why. I answered “Because my boyfriend is there.” So questions arose and I explained to them that Rob and I are in a long distance relationship (LDRs) and we met online etc. I could see a change of facial expression on A’s face (although she was trying to hide it) when I explained while B had a better “fake-receptive” look.

Initially when I told them my boyfriend is in Chicago, B looked all shocked and asked “You’re boyfriend is in Chicago and you’re HERE?” I also got questioned about his “race” to which I said, “Yes he is an angmo (white)”. Funny coming from them considering B is married to an angmo from Texas. A then questioned his age and his work etc, being all curious I suppose but it gets better….

The stupidest question was A asking me “So do you like him? Really like him?” I was stunned, I was dumbfounded that someone could ask me that question. Speechless, I stupidly just said “Yeah” and walked away. I seriously became dumb because someone actually asked me a question THAT dumb. I was DUMBIFIED. Hello??? She went to Law school for GOD’S SAKE. Thank GOD she isn’t practising law. Oh I wonder why. La Di Da…

Anyway, I wanted to kick myself a minute later when I realized what had happened. Why didn’t I say something back? I wanted to say “BITCH, he’s my boyfriend, of course I fcuking like him. I LOVE HIM”. *sigh* I can be so clueless sometimes.

So this brings me to this post. What’s so wrong about LDRs? Normally I don’t give a rat’s ass what people think about me but after this long, I really need to vent out the frustrations on the narrow-minded people I’ve come across. It’s ok if you’re skeptical but it’s not ok when you’re skeptical AND have a self-righteous attitude. Not all LDRs are foolish, superficial, artificial, fake, untrue, fantasy-like etc.

Some people don’t believe that LDRs will work simply because of the distance. Some people don’t trust their partner being on the other side of the world. Then again, how many times have you heard of people cheating while living under the same roof with their partner? Just because you don’t see your partner face to face on a daily basis does not mean they are cheating or lying to you.

Some people crave for the physical intimacy and I don’t mean just sex. The hugging, kissing, cuddling, snuggling etc. Yes, some couples have pre-marital sex, some hold out until marriage. It’s their choice. It’s their life. For me, physical intimacy isn’t as important as compared to spiritual connection between two people. Of course I would be lying if I said I didn’t yearn from the physical closeness with my soulmate. I want to be able to hug him when he’s having a bad day. I want to be able to kiss him goodnight. I want to be able to hold his hands. I can’t right now but I know we have something more than that. Something better that nothing can replace. We have a connection. Our souls connected in many levels. That is what a soulmate is.

I told Rob about it today and he and I laughed it off by coming up with some seriously sarcastic (Hah! The irony!) comebacks that I should have said to A’s question; “So do you like him? Really like him?” Here are the top 5 answers:

5) Like him? Who are you kidding? No way!
4) No, I don’t really like him. He’s just my BOYFRIEND for fun. *roll eyes*
3) It’s just my life-long dream to have an ang mo boyfriend. So why not?
2) Nah, don’t like him that much. I just like to travel half way around the world to see someone I don’t like JUST for fun.

And THE best answer I could’ve gave to her was….

Drumroll please…

1) No, he’s an ass. I just fly over there for the SEX. (For the SHOCK [!] factor) or in Rob’s sarcastic words “No I don’t really like her. I just wanna DOINK her”

I understand that some people do not understand LDRs. I understand that some people are skeptical about it. I understand some people just don’t get it but sometimes I just can’t help but take some offense to their reactions and words. Nothing is impossible in this day of age. Even a man can now give birth nowadays! So PLEASE be a bit open minded.

P/S: I may have been overly sensitive towards their reaction but after so long and the many “looks” I get from people when I tell them I am in a LDR, can you blame me?

24 more days to go!

June 27, 2008

Yes, I’m still counting the days to my trip. As each day passes, the excitement feels like it’s going to burst into a gazillions colours and shapes and forms, mostly bright shades of yellow, orange, red and pink. That’s about the only way I can describe my excitement. I’m not only staying two weeks, I’m staying FIVE WEEKS! It is going to be awesome!

Everything is confirmed with flights and hotel stays and whatnot. Roadtrip is in place, nothing will stop us except for nasty weather and/or broken car. *cross fingers* Mall of America (the largest mall in the U.S of A) here I come! Some fun facts I heard from Rob. If you spend 10 minutes in each store at MOA, you would finish cruising the entire mall in FOUR days. FOUR FREAKING DAYS, non-stop, no sleep, 24 hours a day! 96 hours of continuos mall-trotting. I keep imagining how big it is and how big my mouth will open once I see it from afar.

Anyway we’ll be in Minnesota for about 3 days so I’m definitely going to make the most out of it! We are really looking forward to this roadtrip. That way we can torture each other in the car for about 6-7 hours which is how long we, well Rob, will be driving according to GoogleMaps. Personally I think with my constant “Oooo!! Look! Sssstopp! I gotta take a picture of that!” or “Honey, I need to pee and/or poop” or “Are we there yet? Are we there yet? How about now? Now?”, it will put us about 8 hours. LOL

To save money we’re already planning on buying groceries and eating in a couple times a week. But the first week will definitely be a pig-out fest as I miss the food there so much. Thereafter I am perfectly happy with making pancakes together for breakfast or cooking him my specialty corn soup and rice. I have also perfected the art of steaming fish and chicken with my almost-daily healthy eating. I think I’m getting quite good with it.

Well I’m going to hit the showers. Very hot humid day.

Au revoir~~

Free hotel room

June 20, 2008

I got a free hotel room for one night near Newark Airport! WOOOHOOO! I am SO good! Yes I’m very VERY VERY freaking proud of myself. So what did I do to deserve a free room?

Rob suggested I stay at Howard Johnson for my one night layover and me not knowing what’s good or not I was pretty much leaving it up to him. Anyway, he was about to book me a night through and I curiously wanted to know more about Howard Johnson so I went to their website to see what it’s all about.

While I was reading I heard Rob talking to himself through the process of booking me a room and he mentioned how much it was going to cost. I checked how much it would cost to get a room directly from Howard Johnson’s website and to my surprised they charged MORE. Strange I thought. I would think if customers buy directly from you, they would get the best rate right?

I continued browsing the site and came across a banner saying “Best rate guaranteed or it’s free”. I read it out to Rob and he was like “Huh??” We couldn’t believe it, there HAS to be a catch. After much deliberation and persuasion from my end, Rob called Howard Johnson to make a “reservation”. Thirty minutes later, he emails Howard Johnson making a claim for the free room because he “found” a better rate at “after” making reservations.

And then the next morning he got an email saying they are giving him a FREE ROOM! How easy was that?!?! All we had to do was try and it worked! 😀 We just saved over US$100 so that means more shopping money for me. I can’t wait!

So here’s my tip. When you book hotel rooms online, make sure to check different sources. is a pretty good site and always always checked at the hotel’s website before purchasing anything. You never know what kinda deal you’ll get. 😀

Oh yeah, on a totally related note, about 4 more weeks to go!!!!!!!!! I can’t wait!!!! Ok, I feel better getting that outta my system.

Needless to say I am scrambling trying to lose weight and dieting like crazy. I made steam fish for dinner tonight. The result wasn’t bad at all considering it was my FIRST try. Will post up pictures later. I haven’t tasted anything artificially sweet in over two weeks! I miss coffee, I miss cakes, I miss ice cream! I miss chicken skin!!! Even the ad on tv about KFC is making me hungry.

Alrighty, back to reality.

Less than 6 weeks to go!

June 12, 2008

Today Rob bought the remaining domestic flight, which is the returning flights from O’hare to Newark. Prices finally came down to $149.50 including tax today as compared to $194 yesterday. We’re so glad. He also made reservations for my one night stay at Newark (if things work out we might get it for FREE!) and for the 4 weeks I’ll be staying at In Town Suites. We’re almost done with everything. All that’s left is a few nights near the Mall of America roadtrip and the first few nights when I first get to Chicago. I’m pretty sure we’ll be done with everything by the end of this week.

On a totally unrelated note, Streamyx SUCKS BIG TIME! I keep getting disconnected during the last 3 days. Calling customer support doesn’t seem to be helping much because as always they try to blame us users for whatever, asking us to check wires and settings and whatnot. ZZZZZZZZZ Technicians came today, fiddled here and there then left. They said they will send someone else over to change the phone wires entirely. I waited until 3pm and no one came. I called the local Telekom and got the cellphone number of the tech who was suppose to come. I then find out that he’s jam-packed today and won’t be coming today. Oh how nice of them to let me know. *roll eyes* He said he was gonna come over tomorrow morning but I’m going shoe shopping so SCREW THEM.

It’s ridiculous how they expect us to always be home for them EVERYTIME. What about those who are working? What? As long as no one’s home, they won’t fix their service? It really pisses me to no end that it’s pretty obvious the problem lies with them and their equipment, so why not fix their damn ports and whatnot instead of claiming we changed settings on the modem/dialer/whatever. A$$holes.

A few tips for Streamyx users if you don’t already know. I constantly call customer service when the connection is unstable i.e. pages load slow, frequent disconnection and ask them to reset the port. If they seem reluctant, be bitchy and loud. They will reset the port eventually. Oh, if they ask you to unplug and replug the modem or wires, tell them you already have and do not need to go through this ridiculous step EVERYTIME and stop treating customers like they are stupid. Threaten to cancel subscription or talk to their supervisor or email the director/CEO etc and your problem gets fixed faster, like first thing the next morning if you call at night. This is from my personal experience.

So like I said, I’m going shoe shopping tomorrow so I better get some things done (I’m still waiting for my nails to dry) and get my “beauty” sleep. Goodnight!

High maintenance

June 2, 2008

Many random things for this post…

We had a couple units of air conditioners installed in the house today and they were drilling and whatnot, making it hard for me to focus on my work. So I messaged Rob…

S: so ummm i cant concentrate
R: I’ll give you a dollar if you lean out the window and spill some cheap perfume on the installer
S: a dollar? i’m not that cheap hmmmmphhhh *Looks away*
R: Its a dare bet honey, i didnt ask you to flash him
S: nope, i aint doing nothing for a buck hmmphhhhh *tosses hair*
R: Ok ok, a mcflurry
S: anything else?
R: 2 flurrys
S: 5 and you have a deal
S: am i too high maintenance for ya now honey?


A couple days ago I noticed an increase in my page views. I later on found out that I have been getting a lot of hits from an online forum site. Apparently, someone was interested in my shoe post a couple years ago. I also got some comments from the users that they are now reading my blog so a great big shoutout to the girls of!! *waves*


Now that June is here, excitement is escalating with Rob and I. Yesterday he purchased the ticket from Newark Airport to O’hare Airport so you can imagine my excitement. You guys are probably sick and tired of me babbling over my trip but I really cannot help it. I get the feeling that June is just going to sweep by without me realising it. That’s good and bad. Good because I get to see Rob sooner, but bad because I get very stressed out to finish the thesis as much as I can.

Anyway all that’s left to do is book my hotel stay for a night at Newark before flying off to Chicago the next day. I will arrive in Newark Airport around 7pm and there aren’t any flights to Chicago after that so I have to take a flight the following day. It’s a bit spooky to be on my own for a night but I suppose that will be my little mini adventure. Heh

I have planned out my food menu for my first day in Chicago so it’ll be great. It consists of IHOP for breakfast, then off to Woodfield Mall to get Baskin Robbins’ Strawberry Cheesecake ice cream, and dinner at Chili’s with Molten Cake for dessert. 😀

Because of all the yummy food I will consume while I am there, I am in the midst of TRYING to lose weight before going over. I rather lose weight, and gain it back while I am there than coming back FATTER. Lol

It’s late, my bed is calling me. Will write soon.

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